The Day When Fish Fly

There are moments in life that push you to evolve in ways you never thought possible, and for me, it came with the transition of Venus in my skies. The human heart, though anatomically unchanged, undergoes a transformation every Saturn return. This celestial clock, ticking every 29.5 years, recalibrates the way we love, shifting our Venus sign backward through the zodiac. What once felt natural in our expression of love now morphs into something foreign yet inevitable.

Every transition carries its own weight—demanding in its own way yet wrapped in its own beauty, and its own purpose. For those born with Venus in Pisces, this transition into Venus in Aquarius is a paralyzing one, as you suddenly see everything with clarity. It is like waking up in a new world, where love is no longer an ocean but an open sky. One moment, you are boundless, flowing through the depths of feeling, and the next, you are detached—watching everything from above. You see things with striking clarity, but the overwhelming urge to change the future collides with the merciless realization that foresight does not grant permission to intervene. And, it is impossible to say which is the greater act of love.

The Eternal Ocean of Love

Venus in Pisces is the river of unconditional love. It is like an ever-flowing river under the sea, quietly moving in sync with the tides. It is pure, unconditional love, empathizing with everyone around it and embracing the full spectrum of human emotions. Those with this Venus placement love like the tides, flowing into the crevices of others' souls, understanding them at their deepest core. We feel everything. Every tear, every joy, every heartbreak is a wave on the shore of their emotional ocean. This heart believes in fairy tales, in soulmates, in the divine connection between two spirits.

When Venus is in Pisces, love is a sacred, profound experience. There are no boundaries—just the soul's ability to connect with the world and offer everything without asking for anything in return. Loving a Venus in Pisces is like being cradled by the ocean itself. Pisces heart loves it as if it has always known that the deepest parts of the ocean are not just dark but rich with beauty and complexity. However, this also comes with a sense of losing oneself. Love becomes an ocean, and it is easy to drown in it. They will dissolve themselves in your essence, merging until there is no distinction between where they end and you begin.

The Divine Observer

Then, the shift happens. The tide recedes, and suddenly, love is no longer a wave that washes over but a sky that watches from above. Venus in Aquarius is the most paradoxical lover—one who will give you everything, including the choice to leave them. There is no clinging, no desperation—only acceptance. They are the only Venus sign that will honor your wishes to the point of self-erasure. You ask them to stay, they stay. You ask them to go, they vanish without a trace.

But make no mistake—this is not indifference. This is love in its most intelligent form. Aquarius, ruled by Saturn and Uranus, loves through understanding. They do not manipulate, they do not trap; they let love breathe, let it exist freely, knowing that love without freedom is merely possession. Aquarius is the one who will give you anything—from their time, their energy, to even their life, if asked. But what people don’t realize is that Aquarius gives with the understanding of how their love is being used. In love, they are like puppets, aware of the strings that others pull, but they allow themselves to be played—only because they know exactly how the game is being played. Aquarius loves freely, but with a deep, almost intellectual detachment. You’ll find that Aquarians are not easily swayed by emotional pleas. If they’re in, they’re in with full commitment—but only because they choose to be.

The Heart Tansplant

So, what happens when Venus transitions from Pisces to Aquarius? It’s not just a shift in zodiac signs; it’s a heart transplant. One moment, you are drowning in the ocean of feelings, riding the waves of every emotion that comes your way, and the next, you’re standing on a mountain top, seeing love as something to be appreciated, understood, and sometimes even analyzed from a distance. For me, this shift happened after my first Saturn return, as Venus moved one sign ahead of where it was at birth, changing my entire emotional landscape. That’s when the real work began. Saturn’s return is a rite of passage, the moment we leave behind childhood naivety and step into maturity. In my case, Venus moving into Aquarius after Saturn’s return was a direct invitation to reframe how I saw relationships, love, and self-worth.

A Sacrifice That Leads to Self-Love

At first, the transplant feels like a loss—like something precious has been ripped away, leaving you hollow. The boundless love that once flowed effortlessly through you now demands boundaries, clarity, and self-preservation. But over time, the sacrifice reveals its purpose. It is not a loss but an evolution. The shift from Pisces to Aquarius is not about loving less—it is about loving with wisdom. It is the realization that love does not require self-sacrifice to be real. Instead of dissolving into others, you become whole within yourself. This transformation, though painful, is the price of true self-love, a love that no longer asks for permission to exist. And in that love, you find not just freedom—but yourself.

I began to realise that Venus in Aquarius wasn't just about loving others in a different way—it was about learning to love myself. The Venus in Pisces that once ruled my heart was a fluid, flowing river, but Aquarius has taught me how to build banks around that river so that it no longer floods me or others. It's about acknowledging my worth, setting clear boundaries, and not feeling guilty about protecting my peace.

The shift, however, wasn't easy. How do you go from being a Pisces Venus, who knows no boundaries, to an Aquarius Venus, who thrives by creating them? It was like trying to keep the ocean inside a glass bottle—impossible and frustrating at first. But through this process, I've learned that it isn't a lack of love or care when you create boundaries; it's a deeper, more self-aware form of love.

The Detached, Self-Loving Rebel

Aquarius is often misunderstood. Its self-love is what sets it apart. Some may call it self-absorbed and rebellious, but in truth, it’s just the recognition that protecting oneself from manipulation and dishonesty is the highest form of self-respect. The world may label them as cold, but it is their emotional intelligence, their awareness of the deeper manipulations of others, that makes them appear distant. But if you're lucky enough to earn their trust, you'll find that their love, though not always warm and fuzzy, is incredibly strong, and incredibly real.

A Venus in Aquarius does not love the way the world expects love to be given. They do not promise eternity; they promise honesty. They do not drown you in their depths; they show you the vast sky and let you choose your own path.

The Heart Transplant: More Loving Than We Realize

The most difficult heart transplant in my lifetime was not one of flesh but of spirit. It was learning that love is not just about embracing others but about embracing oneself. It was realising that letting go is sometimes the greatest act of devotion. It was understanding that in the end, the river and the sky are both infinite—they only express infinity in different ways. When Venus shifts from Pisces to Aquarius, love is no longer a dream to be lived in—it is a reality to be understood. The ocean turns into the air, and instead of diving deep, we learn to soar. Both Venus in Pisces and Venus in Aquarius love deeply—but in very different ways. Venus in Pisces drowns in the emotions, embracing all and feeling all, while Venus in Aquarius loves with a calculated clarity, giving from a place of understanding and self-respect.

Who Loves More? 

Is it the Pisces Venus who drowns in devotion, or the Aquarius Venus who lets you be? Who is the more loving one? The one who gives themselves away, or the one who protects themselves? The answer is neither and both.

Pisces Venus shows unconditional love to others. They embrace the flaws, the imperfections, the suffering, carrying the burdens of those they love. Their love is poetry, tragedy, and resurrection all at once.

Aquarius Venus, however, embodies unconditional love for oneself. They refuse to be used, refuse to be drained by those who take without giving. It is why they have been called the coldest of the zodiac, though this accusation often comes from those who resent the boundaries they set. It is not that Aquarius Venus lacks love—it is that they understand love must be chosen, not extracted.

In the end, after this heart transplant, I’ve learned that the most difficult part of love isn’t about who loves more or how we love. It’s about realising that we’re always learning to love ourselves first—no matter the zodiac sign that Venus is in. The real transformation occurs when we let go of old patterns, let the river flow freely, and build solid walls to ensure we’re always protecting what’s most important: Ourselves.

The Day When Fish Fly